Just last week Bill and I toasted our 20 year anniversary. It was 20 years ago that he made the big move and leaned in for a bit smoocherino. And that was it. Has every minute been perfect? No. Marriage is hard work. But if you put your effort into it, the result is amazing. We spoke the other night how our marriage just keeps getting better, in every way. So what are we doing?
Learning from our mistakes. When we say something that bothers the other, and they point it out, the other backs off and does not say that again.
Giving time and attention. We have always gone out for date night at least twice a month for our marriage. Even when the babies were young.
Respecting each other’s interests. I get him. He gets me. He has his hobbies, I have mine. We are both workaholics. His work is outside th home, mine is about the home.
Giving it all you got. I don’t want to see him overweight and he doesn’t want to see me that way either. We made a pact to be thin, healthy, and fit when we turned 40. We plan to have a lot of fun in our golden years playing golf.
Inspiring each other. I encourage him and I am behind him no matter what. And I know he supports me and has my back.
Fighting fair. No matter how great your marriage is you are going to have an argument once in a while. No matter how angry we are, we try to stay civil to each other.
Intimacy. Keep your marriage sizzling.
Communication. Talk to each other.
But mostly, decide together that you want to have a great marriage and then make it happen. It is the best gift you can give your children.